This one was not an easy post to do. I only have three people that I know IRL but am deathly afraid that maybe it will be read by someone else eventually, but here it goes anyway.
I had a real good friend. The friendship started out well enough but as I have said before there is some sort of strange attraction to me from crazies.
L and I started out getting to know each other because we worked together. Soon, I became her manager. Knowing that she needed the support of someone that would motivate her, we started talking every morning. I had her write out punch lists and check on her the following morning to see the progress. At first it was very rare that I had her complain about her life, and then it became more and more frequent.
I listened to how horrible her mom was and how she was victimized by everyone. I listened to how her teenage daughter showed up on her doorstep with a baby and how she took them in. I heard all about how this child of hers accused her husband of sexual abuse because she heard that she could get money for being a victim. I heard the horror stories of what this daughter did to her family.
I gave a bunch of children’s clothes and furniture to L for her new grandchild.
I watched as this daughter started causing problems again. I stood quietly as this daughter destroyed relationship after relationship in this household and then she started saying that L and her husband were abusing her and her son.
L kicked her out and then let her back in a few months later.
The daughter signed her son over to her real father’s family for MONEY! No effing kidding on this one. She SOLD her child. (Side note…she has not seen this child in YEARS)
L was devastated!
The daughter got pregnant again with another child and started the crap all over again.
L’s mother stopped talking to L years ago because she could not take the fact that L kept taking this girl back as if she had an unending amount of free tickets. I started understanding the mother’s point of view.
I watched this girl destroy this family and I watched L get kicked EVERY time.
I finally stopped taking her calls. I happened to be busy every time she wanted to go out.
Then she SUED our boss. This is when I cut the cord.
I still think that L has some excellent qualities but the negative was too much for me to take.
3 comments:
I think I've gotten to the point where I am more willing to cut out toxicity, rather than spend years on a relationship that won't go anywhere.
That is terribly bad... a woman like that would suck everything out of you and keep looking for another one to take from. I begin to wonder if those stories were true, not your story but hers.
M
What is it about some toxic relationships that we can't seem to get ourselves out of? L needs some help.
And smart of you to keep your distance!
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